by Michelle Friedman, Keshet Board Chair
Language shapes how we understand the world and each other. In discussions about disability and inclusion, the words we use can either affirm and uplift or alienate and harm. Choosing the right language is essential to fostering a world where everyone feels valued and included.
When talking about disability, some people avoid the term entirely, substituting alternatives like “differently abled” or “special needs.” While often well-intentioned, these euphemisms can feel patronizing or dismissive. For many within the disability community, these terms attempt to soften reality, obscuring the systemic barriers we encounter. Words like “special needs” can also carry unintended negative connotations. This term, for instance, implies that the needs of disabled individuals are somehow extraordinary, when in reality, they are just needs — basic human requirements for access, support, and inclusion. Everyone has needs at one time or another; framing them as “special” for disabled people sets us apart unnecessarily.
Disability is not a bad word. It is a neutral descriptor, not something to fear or avoid. For many, it is the clearest and most widely accepted term. It acknowledges challenges without sugarcoating or romanticizing lived experiences. However, preferences vary greatly, and it is essential to respect how individuals choose to identify themselves. If you’re unsure, the simplest approach is to ask.
Read the full article on the Make It Better Foundation website.
